Is it necessarily cheating to say “you think you’ve got a neutral speculation or a beneficial plan, but here’s how that sort of thing has worked out in practice and I was there”?
Yeah, it’s cheating. When you bring in an emotionally charged personal story, that implicitly associates your friend with evil, you’re dropping the presumption of mutual good will that makes a discussion civil.
Is it necessarily cheating to say “you think you’ve got a neutral speculation or a beneficial plan, but here’s how that sort of thing has worked out in practice and I was there”?
Yeah, it’s cheating. When you bring in an emotionally charged personal story, that implicitly associates your friend with evil, you’re dropping the presumption of mutual good will that makes a discussion civil.